I would suggest you follow these steps when you have some quiet time to process. I also would encourage you to write down and journal your responses if possible. (There are some free journaling programs available for your computer also.)
The first thing you want to do is feel for what doesn’t seem resolved about the event that took place. What still bothers you? Try to express exactly what bothers you clearly with words. What lacks peace? Get very specific.
Once you have identified the part of the event that is still unresolved, see if you can get in touch with how it feels using one of the emotion words listed below.
If you can clearly identify something unresolved but cannot identify any feeling, ask you heart, “What if I did feel that? What would be my concern?” (Would it be too painful? Would it overwhelm me? –Thoughts such as this.)
Then ask God if there is anything He wants you to know about that concern.
Angry (frustration, agitation, irritation)
Fear (anxious, worried, insecure)
Sorrow (sad, regret, loss)
Helpless (powerless, trapped)
Once the emotion is identified, focus on it and see if it brings a memory to mind. The emotion is the bridge back to the memory containing the belief. (Try not to think it, but feel it–this is the key.)
Scan the memory, make sure you are accessing it and make sure you are not just generally looking at things. What still bothers you about that memory? What lacks peace? Again, get very specific.
How does it make you feel? You feel what you believe–this is the core principle. Once the emotion is identified, focus on it and see if you can identify what you are believing that is producing the emotion. If not, see if the emotion leads you to yet another memory.
If you are lead to another memory, go back to Step 4. (It’s not usual for these two steps to be repeated.)
Once the belief is discovered, lift it to the Lord and ask what He wants you to know about that belief.
God should impart some sort of truth to you here about your belief – sometimes in words, scriptures, pictures, impressions, etc. (He’s God, so He will “speak” to you however He chooses.)
Once God’s truth has been received, check the memory again to see if it feels resolved now. At times, it may be partly resolved but not all the way. If so, what’s different? Now, what bothers you? Then start the steps again.
NOTE: If you are having trouble working through these steps or would like some assistance in processing some issues, please feel free to contact us.