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Dealing With The Anger Stronghold

July 31, 2016 by Robert Hartzell

Have you ever prayed forgiveness repeatedly only to find you still harbored anger toward the person?

There is a prayer ministry tool for dealing with the anger stronghold that is very effective.

Freedom from hopelessness, from feeling stuck and powerless, and even from feeling unworthy is very available. Jesus provided all we need upon the cross.

When you feel clean and confident, that God is with you, you can accomplish wonderful things in life.

There is one main stronghold that can block this growth. Have you guessed it? Anger. Anger shuts healing down. Many people aren’t fully aware they even battle this.

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I have done 1000s of hours of prayer ministry with people for every kind of hurt imaginable, even deep abuses that brought patterns of feeling powerless and worthless. If a person can be open to consider their pain, there is always a way forward and freedom can be found. However, the one thing that closes the door for people and traps them in their pain is anger.

Angerthe anger stronghold

The most debilitating form of anger is anger toward God. This is the hardest form of anger to overcome. I have seen people get past this, but I’ve also seen a number of people not resolve it. They have a mindset that keeps them stuck.

This mindset locks in on the idea that they have gotten a raw deal in life. They believe they have suffered certain things that have had far reaching consequences and feel it just isn’t fair.

I totally understand this and acknowledge there are no easy answers.

I, myself, grew up in an alcoholic home and in domestic violence. This type of childhood hindered development of my social skills, educational growth, and even simply feeling safe in the world. The road has been long to work through this. There are no easy answers, but there is a key.

Faith in the Father’s Love

First of all, the Bible is clear that God is love. He never thinks a negative thought toward you. He loves you with an everlasting love. He is patient and kind. He has always loved you and has always had your best interest in mind. (1 Jn. 4:16; Jer. 31:3; Jer. 29:11)

Yet, looking at certain things people have suffered, that others have not, makes these truths about God seem false. Unfortunately, as long as you cling to these beliefs, there is no way forward. No one will be able to stand before the Lord and accuse Him.

So here’s the key – it boils down to a step of faith and a choice to let go of the anger. Consider saying this prayer: “God, I don’t understand how or why these painful events have happened to me. It seems like You didn’t protect me or even cared. Yet I know that’s not true even though I don’t understand how these two, seemingly opposing things, can coexist. God, I choose to lay aside my anger and trust You. I choose to believe You are loving and I lay aside my demand for You to explain things to me. I trust You to show me what I need to know when the time is right.”

When you can pray this prayer, it opens the door to healing and unlocks amazing forward movement. And as you take this step you will eventually come to see that God does work all things for good and does restore the years the cankerworm has eaten. (Rom. 8:28 ; Joel 2:25)

Filed Under: Prayer Ministry Tagged With: anger, Father's Love

Can Messages of the Judgment of America Mature Us?

November 14, 2012 by Robert Hartzell

Can Messages of the Judgment of America Mature Us? Judgment is a real thing but many struggle to understand it in the right context.

Judgment can never be understood without seeing through the filter of the Fathers Love.

Warning
There are many books saying, “All the signs are there, America is under judgment.” I struggle with this judgment idea but I certainly believe sowing and reaping is a real thing. However, here’s an important question. Does God cause it or allow it? Some might argue that it doesn’t matter. Yet, it comes down to motive. A wounded father punishes his children in anger. A loving father knows it is not alwCan Messages of the Judgment of America Mature Usays wise to fight his children’s battles for them. For children to come into all they were created for, they have to face consequences and mature. Understanding God’s heart as it relates to us in discipline is integral to how well we mature in Him.

So many of these books say or imply God is angry with America. However, to say God’s angry is to imply our sin somehow caught Him by surprise; presuming He didn’t know, before ever creating the heavens and the earth, that we would be exactly at this spot in this place and time. If God has “had enough,” it suggests He is triggered, punishing us in anger rather than disciplining us in love. It implies His feelings are hurt, that He’s somehow insecure with the fact that He is all powerful.

The message, “You better tighten up!” which most all the books and prophets intone states that somehow enough sober fear will finally mature us.

Roots to this View of God
Many people battle a fear they aren’t doing “enough” and so judgment will come. Many of us grew up that way. I could inadvertently say the wrong thing and get backhanded by my dad. That imparts shame, a sense of abandonment, no one there to protect me. Or a simpler example: I get a bad grade on a test and mom gives me “the look.” This results in me making conclusions in my heart such as, “I’d better watch out or the hammer will fall.”

Consider the sins of China or Brazil. A case could easily be made that their sins far exceed the US and yet both those countries are prospering. We run to judgment for fear of “dad’s backhand,” yet God’s nature is not such nor His work on the earth so easily summarized.

It is Only Love That Matures
Some say we need a wake-up call. That is certainly better than the view God is pouring out His vengeance. However, it still implies a mild anger.Can Messages of the Judgment of America Mature Us

Picture a child coloring on the wall. Mom walks up with a swift swat to the butt – a wake-up call. Now contrast that to mom sitting down with the child lovingly explaining, “I’ve spoken with you about drawing on the wall and said you would get a spanking the next time you did that,” then proceeds to give the spanking. The discipline is done in love and not anger, because mom’s not triggered. She isn’t battling rejection because her two-year old just won’t obey her! The discipline is totally done with the child’s best interest in mind.

Of course there are consequences to our actions, however, God’s heart is always love. It’s always that He “would have all men to be saved,” (1 Tim.2:4). Seeing God’s heart is vital. It is always to the end that we see His love. It is love that matures us, not fear. Mature love casts out fear (1 Jn.4:18).

Filed Under: Father's Love Tagged With: anger, Father's Love, fear, judgment

Commando System Cleaner Prayer Ministry

May 22, 2010 by Robert Hartzell

Commando System Cleaner Prayer Ministry. Just as a computer system can be cleaned and optimized, so can your soul.

Prayer Ministry is effective for cleaning up thoughts, feelings, and attitudes that run in the background of your life.

Commando System Cleaner Prayer MinistryMany Christians live years shut down, with their “Operating System” running slow. Computer programs like Spybot – Search & Destroy, Advanced System Optimizer, and PC Pitstop, claim to stop unwanted programs from running in the background, clean your system registry, and even remove viruses, making your computer run much faster!

We can also have unwanted programs running in the background, replaying thoughts of how someone has mistreated us or how life just isn’t working out. This often occurs because of errors (lies) in our “system registry” that tell us God isn’t for us, or there is something wrong with us. These lies can give legal ground for an enemy “virus” to come in and exacerbate the problem.

There have been times where my “system” was running so slow I was practically shut down. It was hard to pray, read the word, or even to concentrate at work. I found myself wanting to eat more and just watch TV all the time. I finally went to a Prayer Minister where I discovered a number of past places I had hidden anger. I didn’t even realize it. ICommando System Cleaner Prayer Ministrythought I had dealt with all the anger in my life.

There is something so cleansing, renewing, and restoring of child-like innocence when we get all the “bugs” out of our system, clean out the pipes, and connect again to God. It is really wonderful to have communication channels opened and functioning again!

Filed Under: Prayer Ministry Tagged With: anger, Christian Counseling, Counseling

Resolving Anger Using Sonship Identity

December 30, 2009 by Robert Hartzell

Resolving Anger Using Sonship Identity Brings Results When Everything Else Has Failed

Freedom from anger is key to Heart Opened Living:

  • This is where you experience connection with God, yourself, and others.
  • You feel fulfilled and content.
  • Your creativity flows and you move forward in life.

How to be free of anger

Resolving Anger Using Sonship Identity

When it comes to dealing with anger we have been exhorted, admonished, and given techniques like praying daily for the person we are angry with until our heart changes. Dealing with anger can be elusive, we pray and nothing seems to happen. There is a major key in helping find freedom from anger.

The major key to freedom I have found is that there is usually a reason someone is holding onto anger. Resolving Anger Using Sonship Identity has to do with finding the identity issue behind the anger.

An Exercise

1. Think of the person you are mad at and why. (Go ahead and try journaling this)

2. Now search your heart considering the idea of fully letting it go. Do you notice anything hesitant in your heart to fully release the anger? What if you did fully let it go, how would that make you feel? (Do not give the standard Christian answer from your mind, but look to your heart and see how it feels.)

Most of the time the belief for holding the anger will be something like, “I’ll be unprotected if I let it go; it will happen again,” or “nothing will change,” or “they’ll just get away with it.”

3. Resolving Anger Using Sonship Identity means not trying to deny that feeling; simply acknowledge if that feels true in your heart. Then lift that belief up to God and listen.

“Father, it feels like this anger is the only thing I have to protect me. God would You speak to me about that?”

If you get down to how you really feel and what you really believe by embracing honesty, humility, and childlike meekness, acknowledging the truth – you will hear God speak.

Once the hindrances are out of the way it becomes relatively easy to pray a prayer to release the anger and forgive the person who hurt you. I have done this with many prayer ministry clients and see close to a 100% success rate with this approach. Give it a try, or contact me if you need help with this.

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