God designed the family unit to give you the building blocks of emotionally healthy living and growth, to give you a Sonship Road Map.
Of course, no one’s family perfectly follows God’s model. Yet, when you understand the building blocks that are supposed to be there, you know what needs repair.
This is our 6th lesson in our 10-part series on Principles of Growth and Maturity to Reach Your Destiny and our second of 3 lessons on Sonship.
Your family of origin holds all the keys to understanding your individual path to maturity.
How you learned to respond to life as you were growing up, defines your level of growth in a Sonship Road Map.
In our last lesson we saw that your sonship identity determines: 1) your ability to solve problems and grow, and 2) your ability to function in community and in accountability. These are the keys to walking out your calling and destiny.
I don’t think we have realized how integral God’s plan for family really is. God designed the family to teach us about who God is and how to relate to Him.
So now let’s define this Sonship Road Map, these stages of growth.
Once we see the target, we can take the steps to reach it.
The stages of growth your family teaches you are:
- Security in Love
- Respectful Dialogue for Issue Resolution and Problem Solving
- How to Function in Community and Accountability (covered in our next lesson)
Many families have wounding so they are not emotionally secure. Some would label these families “dysfunctional.” In these families even little things about your life are weighed in the balance and you are usually found wanting. Love and acceptance has conditions. Problems are avoided rather than talked out and resolved. Good issue resolution skills are not modeled for the children, therefore they are not learned.
For those of you who grew up in these types of families (which most of us did to some degree), you reach adulthood and lack many of the skills of maturity. Worse, you don’t know what you don’t know.
And having a relationship with God doesn’t automatically fix maturity issues.
Without basic security in love and dialogue for problem solving skills, it becomes difficult to not feel condemned by God when you make a mistake or come to Him in prayer to talk out your problems.
Learning the Sonship Road Map model of security, dialogue, community, and accountability gives you the tools to move forward.
You Have a Blueprint
The key is to identify the good and the bad. Look at the blueprint of your life, then compare it with God’s blueprint.
What solid foundations have you learned that you can build on?
What gaps have you discovered that need repair?
There’s a saying,
“If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gotten.”
Take a step today. Change the course of your life now!
We have a wonderful tool called How to Find Your Healthy and Productive Life Narrative that can help you move forward.
Blessings of Father’s Love to You
I look forward to communicating with you next time when I’ll cover Community Life Skills to Change the World, which explains about walking in Community and Accountability.
Do you have a question about any of this? Feel free to contact me. All email goes to my personal inbox and I will be happy to respond in a timely fashion.
This lesson is Part 6 of a 10-part course on Principles of Growth and Maturity to Reach Your Destiny.
These lessons are delivered free in the Training Section on our website.