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Learning the Sonship Skills of Heart Opened Living – Dealing With Judas

April 6, 2014 by Robert Hartzell

Learning the sonship skills of heart opened living makes life “alive”.

Learning to Discern Your heart is key to staying grounded and connected.

 

The Closed-Heart

Often, we don’t even realize when our heart has closed.

Closed hearts mean that:

  • The Father’s love connection toward others is broken.

  • There’s a lost sense of emotional comfort in the Father’s love.

  • You no longer are feeling emotionally grounded and restful in the Father’s love.

Compassion and empathy toward another person is always the litmus test for heart-opened living.

The Judas Defense

Judas had to have rationalized that his actions were appropriate in betraying Jesus. For example, he was likely angry about how Jesus handled finances. (Jn.12:1-8)

Justifications

We all justify our feeling and actions at some level. Every time I make a judgment in my heart about another person, it reveals that I have a wall up and I’m rationalizing.

Maybe I call it “discernment.” Maybe I feel they deserve it. Maybe I convince myself I’m talking about that person’s bad actions and motives because I want to find a way to release my hurt feelings toward him.

Why is judgment wrong?

Judgment is wrong because it’s based in arrogance and it damages love.

Ouch! Painful, but true. How do you know you are judging another?Learning the Sonship Skills of Heart Opened Living

  • You assign wrong motives to them; that they are acting out of pure malice rather than a struggle they’re facing.

  • You feel anger toward them.

  • You think about their defects repeatedly.

1 John 4:20 is basically saying – you don’t love Jesus anymore than you love your least favorite person. Another ouch!

No Condemnation

Learning the skills of heart-opened living involves recognizing our judgments are not about self-condemnation. It’s about freedom.

If you can recognize your judgment walls, you can see what’s blocking your freedom. Then you can see what’s really going on in your heart.

You may feel hurt by the other person, rejected or ignored. You may in some way feel threatened by them or jealous or left out. So what do you do instead of judging them?

The Key

When you stop and take the time to get past your defenses and deal with the reality of what’s happening in your heart, you find the true root to all the hurt. Once that is found it becomes easy to lift that up to God.

Having God speak into those wounded areas causes instant freedom and release, which brings you back to a place of “aliveness” and open-hearted living again.

Integration

Learning the skills of heart-opened living means you move these truths from intellectual knowledge to heart integration. It happens as you apply them to your heart at the exact point of the struggle you’re facing. This, my friend, is the key.

If you are struggling with being hurt by others and would like some help with this, contact me today. I would be happy to assist you learning this valuable skill.

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    About Robert Hartzell

    Robert Hartzell is the director of Robert Hartzell Inc. An organization dedicated to equipping people with tools for emotional health and Christian maturity. He also leads Fountains of Life, a missions ministry for equipping leaders in the nations.
    Robert is the Author of The Sonship Empowered Life and Fathering Leadership. He is also a speaker on Fathering Leadership, The Father's Love, and Sonship.
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    Comments

    1. Bill Shields says

      April 7, 2014 at 7:30 am

      Wow good stuff. And ouch is right! How quick I am to judge others! Robin and I were just talking about this over the weekend. Thanks Robert for breaking this down with such clear language. Another timely message.

    2. don says

      April 7, 2014 at 10:58 am

      great message.i knew something had shifted in me,but just took it as life is alittle tight this month.without even praying about it. Father opened my eyes to this is what has been going on with me.closed heart toward Him.did not even know it. the wonderful saving,keeping,love of Dad!

    3. Robert Hartzell says

      April 7, 2014 at 5:24 pm

      Thanks Bill, Pam, and Don for the comments.

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