Learning the sonship skills of heart opened living makes life “alive”.
Learning to Discern Your heart is key to staying grounded and connected.
Often, we don’t even realize when our heart has closed.
Closed hearts mean that:
The Father’s love connection toward others is broken.
There’s a lost sense of emotional comfort in the Father’s love.
You no longer are feeling emotionally grounded and restful in the Father’s love.
Compassion and empathy toward another person is always the litmus test for heart-opened living.
The Judas Defense
Judas had to have rationalized that his actions were appropriate in betraying Jesus. For example, he was likely angry about how Jesus handled finances. (Jn.12:1-8)
We all justify our feeling and actions at some level. Every time I make a judgment in my heart about another person, it reveals that I have a wall up and I’m rationalizing.
Maybe I call it “discernment.” Maybe I feel they deserve it. Maybe I convince myself I’m talking about that person’s bad actions and motives because I want to find a way to release my hurt feelings toward him.
Why is judgment wrong?
Judgment is wrong because it’s based in arrogance and it damages love.
Ouch! Painful, but true. How do you know you are judging another?
You assign wrong motives to them; that they are acting out of pure malice rather than a struggle they’re facing.
You feel anger toward them.
You think about their defects repeatedly.
1 John 4:20 is basically saying – you don’t love Jesus anymore than you love your least favorite person. Another ouch!
Learning the skills of heart-opened living involves recognizing our judgments are not about self-condemnation. It’s about freedom.
If you can recognize your judgment walls, you can see what’s blocking your freedom. Then you can see what’s really going on in your heart.
You may feel hurt by the other person, rejected or ignored. You may in some way feel threatened by them or jealous or left out. So what do you do instead of judging them?
When you stop and take the time to get past your defenses and deal with the reality of what’s happening in your heart, you find the true root to all the hurt. Once that is found it becomes easy to lift that up to God.
Having God speak into those wounded areas causes instant freedom and release, which brings you back to a place of “aliveness” and open-hearted living again.
Learning the skills of heart-opened living means you move these truths from intellectual knowledge to heart integration. It happens as you apply them to your heart at the exact point of the struggle you’re facing. This, my friend, is the key.
If you are struggling with being hurt by others and would like some help with this, contact me today. I would be happy to assist you learning this valuable skill.
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