Kinesthetic Awareness for Sonship Life Skills and Effective Leadership
Do you know where your rhomboids are? Can you flex your rhomboids as distinct from your lats? Can you flex your glutes? How about just your right one? Give it a try. There are gymnasts who have unbelievable body control: they can even balance their whole body on one arm. Their muscles have been developed in a very fined-tuned way in order to have incredible kinesthetic awareness. They are aware of their muscles to the point of being able to feel them individually, control them in highly coordinated ways, and feel when something is slightly off or slightly sore. Similar to muscles, you can develop sonship, emotional intelligence in this same way.
The Apprentice, Lack of EQ and Skill Sets
I recently watched the season opener of The Apprentice. The concept this season is interesting: a group of business professionals, who have been laid off in the recession, compete in leadership skill exercises to perform business tasks for Donald Trump. Frankly, I was shocked at the lack of skill sets they displayed. First of all, the two competing team leaders did not sit down and take stock of who had what skills to contribute to their teams. They also didn’t lay out a plan and clearly delegate using accountability and trust. It was clear they didn’t know themselves all that well and therefore struggled leading others.
Emotional Intelligence (EQ)
EQ is a phenomenal concept. This is a measurement of how well a person knows who they are, what they feel, and how to take appropriate responsibility for their feelings. By knowing this about themselves, a leader then is able to recognize how others are feeling and can lead them more effectively.
How do you get there?
You develop this skill set the same way you develop any other. You do some research and you learn the basics. Then you assess where you are at. What past emotional patterns of interaction were shame-based verses those which were respect-based? How have you carried this into your adult interactions? A larger EQ is developed when you apply yourself to gain new skills and go through the learning process, and by getting some help from others and not tackling things in independence. If you feel stuck developing these skills, coaching can help you get the ball rolling.
Becoming emotionally aware, learning who you are, knowing how to be responsible with your emotions and the emotions of others, are huge skills. Studies have clearly shown that those with the highest EQ get promoted in their careers, not those with the highest IQ.