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Journaling for Emotional Intelligence

July 3, 2011 by Robert Hartzell

Journaling for Emotional Intelligence

Emotional awareness and empathy are huge concepts. We hear a lot of preaching on guarding our hearts, putting a watch on our mouths, walking circumspectly. We make effort, sometimes we succeed, sometimes not. The key is emotional awareness. If I don’t know what’s happening in my heart, from which all the issues of life flow, I have little chance of managing it. (Pr.4:23) It is so easy to walk around angry or fearful or even guilty, and yet not really aware of it.

Empathy is the ability to tune into where other people are at. As much as the Bible has to say about guarding our hearts, it may have even more to say about loving others. Empathy is what empowers loving others. Consider this in the light of healthy dialogue.

Journaling for Emotional IntelligenceA friend at church has trouble respecting boundaries. If I flat out call him on it he will likely get offended. If I say nothing, I support bad behavior and pay a price. If I disassociate, I may also communicate rejection. So what’s the key? Empathy. With empathy I can try and see things from his perspective. I can look past the behavior into what may be driving it. With my own emotions sorted and empathy operating, I can embrace humility and create safety for dialogue.

Safe dialogue is another huge skill that flows from humility. I bring up a potentially volatile topic with my friend and ask him to share his heart. This is very different than accusing him of crossing a boundary. I’m seeking understanding, I’m giving him the benefit of the doubt that there may be more to the story than I realize. It’s not backing away from truth. I may still say, “When you did such and such it appeared that…;” however, the drive is for understanding and a way forward, not to be right, or justified, or to correct.

Through journaling I can exercise my emotional awareness and empathy and they will therefore grow.  As I Journaling for Emotional Intelligencejournal about what happened in a situation, how it made me feel, what may have been going on in the heart of the other person, I improve my skill. I don’t know of anything that gives a better rate of return than what we get by building emotional awareness and empathy. They are the key to excelling in dialogue. They are key in becoming that person on the job who has excellent people skills and so gets promoted. They are key in knowing myself, discovering my dreams and natural talents. Most of all, they are the key to a healthy relationship with God and an ability to cooperate with His dealings in my life.

Matt.12:34… For the mouth speaks what the heart is full of.
Lu.6:45 The good man out of the good treasure of his heart brings forth what is good; and the evil man out of the evil treasure brings forth what is evil; for his mouth speaks from that which fills his heart.

Filed Under: Christian Devotions Tagged With: personhood

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About Robert Hartzell

Robert Hartzell is the director of Robert Hartzell Inc. An organization dedicated to equipping people with tools for emotional health and Christian maturity. He also leads Fountains of Life, a missions ministry for equipping leaders in the nations.
Robert is the Author of The Sonship Empowered Life and Fathering Leadership. He is also a speaker on Fathering Leadership, The Father's Love, and Sonship.
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Comments

  1. Fount Shults says

    July 4, 2011 at 5:05 am

    Robert, this is another winner. Keep up the good work

  2. Wayne says

    July 4, 2011 at 8:16 am

    This is so true. Many of today’s problems would disappear if we could all adopt a sensitive empathetic attitude.

  3. Bob Parr says

    July 4, 2011 at 1:11 pm

    Nice… Thanks for that…

  4. Robert says

    July 5, 2011 at 6:36 am

    Thanks for the comments guys.

  5. Erica says

    July 7, 2011 at 1:29 am

    I LOVE this post, thank you for sharing. I’ve had discussions with family the last two days now about God-given gifts. I realize my biggest (and most used) gift is that of Empathy. Your post really details how I’ve been living most of my life. Are you reading my email? he he. But I’m thinking maybe I tend to take it the extreme at times, like I can identify with people or their circumstance like it was my own, even though I’d never been through that before myself. I guess I can go a little overboard with it? Would that be a good way of explaining it? I’m not sure. I should probably figure out how to better balance this out in my day-to-day life :).

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