Fathers Love Empowers A Dialogue Healthy Marriage. Consider this dialogue breakdown:
Husband: “Why is the kitchen always a mess?”
Wife: “Why can’t you ever help around the house? You come home from work and plop in front of the television.”
Husband: “Maybe you’d like to do my job and pay the bills.”
Communication
The old adage says “communication is the key to a healthy marriage.” And it’s true.
However, there is a lot more to communication than most people think. Often husbands and wives resort to ‘fight or flight,’ cutting remarks, global statements, accusations or the silent treatment as a means of communicating. Fathers love is key.
Fathers Love Empowers A Dialogue Healthy Marriage by Giving Security in Love
Here’s a huge key – the reason we tend to respond with ‘fight or flight’ is because we do not feel secure in love. When you feel insecure, the natural defense mechanism is to use ‘fight or flight’ to protect your heart. Unfortunately, no healthy communication can occur in this state.
This is where we can work out practically the Father’s Love. If it doesn’t produce security, we don’t see fruit.
Dialogue
When you are secure in love, you are able to hold your heart open to dialogue and discussion without any defenses rising up trying to protect yourself. This is powerful on several levels. Let me show you.
Here are 3 Core Benefits.
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Teachable. You become teachable. You are able to listen and hear the other person’s heart as well as be able to process what’s happening in your own heart.
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Empathy. You have empathy. You move into understanding and compassion for where the other person is coming from, even if you don’t completely agree.
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Overcome. You can overcome. You find a way forward together as you hear each other’s hearts. You find solutions; you problem solve. You live as an overcomer.
The next time you experience communication breaking down with your spouse, stop the whole communication process completely.
First, address the security issue between the two of you by connecting to the Father’s love.
Once the safety is felt, go back to trying to communicate.
We all stay in a defensive, “on guard” mode when we don’t feel safe; so when this is established, your communication becomes productive dialogue and you can then experience wonderful growth and connection to love and each other.