This is our 9th lesson in our 10-part series on Principles of Growth and Maturity to Reach Your Destiny. These final 3 lessons are covering principles of Fathering Leadership.
If you remember, last time we talked about how fathering leadership has the character to bear with the failings of the weak. We said that they walk in a covering love which creates a safe environment that produces growth.
Fathering Leadership Activates Growth
The next characteristic of fathering leadership is their ability to foster dialogue and problem solving.
Fathering leaders have the maturity to live open-hearted. They are accessible, approachable.
- Dad is not a disciplining drill sergeant that you speak to only when spoken to.
- Mom doesn’t have “no go” areas that quickly get you shut down, a closed heart.
When a child feels comfortable to go to this father with a problem knowing he won’t be made to feel bad for simply having a problem, that empowers him. He will feel the “right” to have his own thoughts, feelings, and actions without having advice crammed at him before he even finishes speaking.
An emotionally mature father listens and helps his child process his own problems. This facilitates him finding his own answers and experiencing growth — huge empowerment! Now translate this into the business/church world and you have a loved and respected leader who creates activation and productivity in his company/congregation. Fathering leadership activates growth.
A 20-year marriage study found that spouses who respond well when they feel mistreated get respect and cooperation in their marriage. You might want to read that sentence over again a few times and let it soak in.
Standing up for yourself without putting the other down is the primary skill in these relationships. These emotionally healthy marriages are successful more than 90% of the time.
A true sign of this is when both the husband and the wife have the emotional healing and skills to stay respectful even when they feel hurt. And of course, they both are good at dialogue when conflicts and disputes arise.
On A Personal Level
Healing and growth also occur on a personal level because your people skills are ever improving. As you become more emotionally healthy, your self-care skills of devotions, health, and continued learning deepen. Some examples that demonstrate this:
- You can “pray through” and not give up when tough challenges come your way.
- You eat well and exercise. You may become a good swimmer, dancer, or runner.
- You learn more skills for your career, or maybe a foreign language. Learning is “turned on” and enjoyable for you.
- You walk in emotional health yourself so you can lead others into it as well.
These advanced leadership skills are available to you if you’ll simply take the steps to learn them and follow the road map.
Until Next Time
I look forward to communicating with you next time when I’ll cover Fathering Leadership Legacy – A Father Leaders Greatest Joy.
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