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6 Prefrontal Cortex Benefits on Emotional Health

July 31, 2016 by Robert Hartzell

prefrontal cortexNeurobiology is finding solid science behind many Biblical principles. Comparing neurobiology with Biblical principles deepens your understanding of them and enhances your ability to apply these principles for spiritual health and healing.  

Healthy Prefrontal Cortex

Neurobiology has leapt forward in recent years. Science shows the prefrontal cortex is responsible for things like:

  1. Attunement: Enables us to tune into others, really hear them and connect.
  2. Emotional balance: Permits the lower limbic regions to become aroused enough so life has meaning, but not too aroused that we become flooded.
  3. Response flexibility: The capacity to pause before acting and inhibit.
  4. Empathy: Considering the mental perspective of another person.
  5. Insight: Self-knowing awareness.
  6. Fear extinction: GABA fibers (an inhibitory neurotransmitter) project down to the amygdala and enable fearful responses to be calmed.

(Siegel)

Biblically Speaking

As you read through this list above you get a good summation of emotional health.

  • Tuning into others.
  • Having empathy.
  • Insight.

These are key to expressing fruits of the Spirit such as love, kindness, goodness, and gentleness. (Galatians 5:22, 23)

Other prefrontal cortex functions mentioned: Response Flexibility and Fear Extinction. As our hearts embrace the Biblical truths of self-control and walking free from lust of the flesh and the pride of life we can see that physically in the brain, neural connections are made. (1 John 2:15-17)

Developing Your Prefrontal Cortex

Family – If you grow up in a family that is Biblical based, many of these things will normally be developed in your heart and in your brain. This occurs from repeated experiences of expressed love. It happens naturally as a mom and dad repeatedly model morality and godliness.

Church – Our experiences in church and personal devotions also help develop these traits of health. Examples such as when you hear good teaching that instructs and moves your heart toward love, or times of worship where God’s goodness convicts of sin and calls us to a higher place.

Prayer Ministry – When you have many unhealed experiences from not growing up in a Biblically based family your heart needs healing and your prefrontal cortex needs further development. Discovery Prayer Ministry accomplishes this well.  

As you learn how healing works and the steps to take, you will feel empowered and break free of any hopelessness and powerlessness you may be living in.

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Dealing With The Anger Stronghold

July 31, 2016 by Robert Hartzell

Have you ever prayed forgiveness repeatedly only to find you still harbored anger toward the person?

There is a prayer ministry tool for dealing with the anger stronghold that is very effective.

Freedom from hopelessness, from feeling stuck and powerless, and even from feeling unworthy is very available. Jesus provided all we need upon the cross.

When you feel clean and confident, that God is with you, you can accomplish wonderful things in life.

There is one main stronghold that can block this growth. Have you guessed it? Anger. Anger shuts healing down. Many people aren’t fully aware they even battle this.

Prayer Ministry

I have done 1000s of hours of prayer ministry with people for every kind of hurt imaginable, even deep abuses that brought patterns of feeling powerless and worthless. If a person can be open to consider their pain, there is always a way forward and freedom can be found. However, the one thing that closes the door for people and traps them in their pain is anger.

Angerthe anger stronghold

The most debilitating form of anger is anger toward God. This is the hardest form of anger to overcome. I have seen people get past this, but I’ve also seen a number of people not resolve it. They have a mindset that keeps them stuck.

This mindset locks in on the idea that they have gotten a raw deal in life. They believe they have suffered certain things that have had far reaching consequences and feel it just isn’t fair.

I totally understand this and acknowledge there are no easy answers.

I, myself, grew up in an alcoholic home and in domestic violence. This type of childhood hindered development of my social skills, educational growth, and even simply feeling safe in the world. The road has been long to work through this. There are no easy answers, but there is a key.

Faith in the Father’s Love

First of all, the Bible is clear that God is love. He never thinks a negative thought toward you. He loves you with an everlasting love. He is patient and kind. He has always loved you and has always had your best interest in mind. (1 Jn. 4:16; Jer. 31:3; Jer. 29:11)

Yet, looking at certain things people have suffered, that others have not, makes these truths about God seem false. Unfortunately, as long as you cling to these beliefs, there is no way forward. No one will be able to stand before the Lord and accuse Him.

So here’s the key – it boils down to a step of faith and a choice to let go of the anger. Consider saying this prayer: “God, I don’t understand how or why these painful events have happened to me. It seems like You didn’t protect me or even cared. Yet I know that’s not true even though I don’t understand how these two, seemingly opposing things, can coexist. God, I choose to lay aside my anger and trust You. I choose to believe You are loving and I lay aside my demand for You to explain things to me. I trust You to show me what I need to know when the time is right.”

When you can pray this prayer, it opens the door to healing and unlocks amazing forward movement. And as you take this step you will eventually come to see that God does work all things for good and does restore the years the cankerworm has eaten. (Rom. 8:28 ; Joel 2:25)

Filed Under: Prayer Ministry Tagged With: anger, Father's Love

Seeking Rest in the Father’s Love

July 11, 2016 by Robert Hartzell

Seeking Rest in the Father’s Love

Isaiah 66:1, 2 Thus says the Lord: “Heaven is My throne, And earth is My footstool. Where is the house that you will build Me? And where is the place of My rest?  For all those things My hand has made, And all those things exist,” Says the Lord. “But on this one will I look: On him who is poor and of a contrite spirit, And who trembles at My word.”     

At one time in my Christian walk I would awake at 5:30am and go to my church to pray each day, then study the Bible from 8 until noon. Almost everyday it seemed like I would try to fast. Unfortunately most days I ended up buying a box of Captain Crunch cereal and eating the whole thing for lunch! I desperately wanted to have Smith Wigglesworth’s anointing, to be a spiritual giant.resting in love

I sought intimacy with God but I sought it wrongly. I was trying to build God something through my works, to build an anointing and enough sacrifice to please Him. I had not learned to simply receive what He freely offers through humility and brokenness.

Father desires for us to know Him but because of misconceptions we have about who our Father is, we often end up discouraged. Our efforts end up not bearing the fruits we had hoped for. We try to work hard for Him, develop  something for Him. We try to do something rather than resting in His love.

However, all things are made by Him so there is nothing left to do. We’re just supposed to be with Him.

The very act of trying to do for God ends up keeping us from Him. 

Ps.131:1-2 — Lord, my heart is not haughty, Nor my eyes lofty. Neither do I concern myself with great matters, Nor with things too profound for me. Surely I have calmed and quieted my soul, Like a weaned child with his mother; Like a weaned child is my soul within me.It takes humility to let go of our own efforts and simply receive but it brings a glorious freedom.

Zach.4:6 — Not by might nor by power, but by My Spirit,’ Says the LORD of hosts.

Ps.127:1 — Unless the Lord builds the house, They labor in vain who build it… 

Let us labor only to enter into His rest. (Heb. 4:11)

Filed Under: Father's Love Tagged With: Christianity, love

What Motivates You?

July 9, 2016 by Robert Hartzell

Motivationwhat motivates you

What motivates you? What motivates you to seek God? What motivates you to live righteously? What motivates you to live on a budget, watch your health, spend time with your family, work hard to make money?

Finding proper motivation is what produces stress-free success.

What motivates you is a hugely important question. Marketing firms for television commercials and on the internet are highly interested in this. Anyone who does any public speaking is seeking to motivate people to something. Your relationship with yourself and God is a constant working out of proper motivation.

Accountability/Fear Motivation

A preacher sought to motivate:

“We’ll all stand before God and give an account one day. A woman who interceded daily for 40 years, crying out for family and neighbors, seeking only God and not materialism, will have a good reward. A hard working couple who got the right education, the right job, earned well and retired early may have lived a wasted life when they stand before God. It is time we embraced our calling to serve!”

Accountability, a fear of the consequences of standing before God having done very little for the His kingdom, are real things. They are not, however, God’s highest form of motivation. The law and its consequences do exist to keep a lid on bad behavior, but it will never produce intimacy with God. Galatians 4 does say we start out under “tutors and governors” but we are supposed to mature into a heart cry of “Abba Father.” In other words, we are supposed to mature into a passionate love for our Heavenly Father as the motive behind all that we do.

Only Love Matures

Walking with God is not a matter of being sufficiently                                                    convicted by a fear of consequences into maturity.

Walking with God is a matter of learning to truly, experientially love God and then growing in that love the rest of your life. Only in this manner can a person sell out to the purposes of God from a place of love rather than works. The minute my motivation slips back into fear I slip back into works, trying to establish my own righteousness.

Works

Rom.10:2-4 — For I bear them witness that they have a zeal for God, but not according to knowledge. For they being ignorant of God’s righteousness, and seeking to establish their own righteousness, have not submitted to the righteousness of God. For Christ is the end of the law for righteousness to everyone who believes.

So what motivates you?

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How to Resolve Daily Shame Interactions

June 28, 2016 by Robert Hartzell

How to Resolve Daily Shame Interactions

I recently attended a meeting of professionals who were well-educated, had good jobs and good families. A person came in and inconsiderately interrupted the meeting. No one said anything to this person but the majority of those in the meeting gave fleeting glances of disgust or disapproval. This is an example of shame in action. Understanding shame interactions, how to recognize them and how to resolve daily shame interactions is an important tool to use in your Christian devotions to build Christian maturity.

Resolve Daily Shame InteractionsIn years past I had not realized how common shame is. I had heard statements like, “Guilt says you have done something bad, shame says that you are bad;” and “Shame only grows in the dark.” I had thought shame only occurs in someone who has really been exploited or victimized in some way. I certainly didn’t see how it applied in my life and definitely not in any regular kind of way.

The first key steps to overcoming shaming interactions are identification and recognition.

Why is this important?
When I judge another human being I am effectively saying that I am better than they are, that I would never fail in the type of way they did. This serves to put a wall up around my heart, a barrier between that person and myself. Judgement causes blockage.

One time I was on the subway in Seoul where I saw a Muslim man with his wife who was covered in a burqa. Previously I had judged that if foreign women have to wear the appropriate clothing in Muslim nations, then Muslim women should adjust in non-Muslim nations. As I saw this couple I thought to myself, “Dude, men are not after your wife. You don’t have to keep her covered like that.” Immediately I realized – that was a judgmental thought! It put a barrier up in my heart between he and I and blocked the flow of love and compassion and any hope of sharing the Gospel with this man.

Our FoundationResolve Daily Shame Interactions
1 John 4:18-21 says we can talk a good game, but if we have a wall up toward a brother — even a “pre-Christian” — we have one up toward God as well. When I block myself from love, it opens the door to many difficulties such as less desire or discipline to pray and more desire to escape into television or food.

The Christian life is designed so that it only functions well on the foundation of a heart open to love. Without this, I can go through the motions of prayer or Christian service, but there’s no life in it. Keeping my heart “on-line” to love is a crucial skill.

Filed Under: Christian Devotions Tagged With: Father's Love, Life skills, personhood, shame

How to Daily Walk in the Father’s Love

June 24, 2016 by Robert Hartzell

Most Christians would say they have a goal of daily communion with Gwalking in the Father's loveod. We all long to live in His presence moment by moment, yet many would say they find this hard to do.

This has been my story. For years I’ve loved books like, The Practice of the Presence of God, Rees Howells Intercessor, and the Autobiography of Madam Guyon. They describe such wonderful communion with God. I’ve often thought of Enoch going so deep into communion with God that one day he simply stepped over to the other side.

Walking with God is described in several different ways in the Bible:

  • Abiding (John 15:4)
  • Being led by the Spirit (Romans 6-8)
  • Entering God’s rest (Hebrews 3, 4)

I’ve often struggled to “be led,” to “rest,” to “abide.” God has been giving me a key that makes all this work.

A Wonderful Key

The key is living in love. Living in love empowers us to abide in God.

In the New King James Bible there is an interesting Section Heading for 1 Jn.4:7, 8:

“Knowing God Through Love”

These verses really get to the heart of the matter.

7 Beloved, let us love one another, for love is of God; and everyone who loves is born of God and knows God. 8 He who does not love does not know God, for God is love.

These verses are so helpful in that they give you a heart gauge to see if you are abiding – are you walking in love? Without walking in love there’s a breakdown in knowing God and abiding in Him. So in searching for this breakdown you simply look for the “love disconnect.”

Love is how you walk in daily communion. Receiving His love and giving it away is the Key to Life!

Practically speaking, how do you do this? Here are two things I’m seeking to do daily in my devotions.

1—Receiving His Love

Daily in devotions I seek to position myself to let His love into my heart.

I ask myself:

  • Can I focus on God’s presence right now and know in my heart I’m loved?
  • Am I receiving His love or do thoughts come about some way I’m not measuring up?
  • As I seek to embrace God’s love do thoughts come about a relationship that is not right or a sin in my life?

If I notice anything hindering God’s love — the disconnect — I remind myself of His truths:

  • He loves me with an everlasting love. (Ezk.31:3) There’s never a time I’m not loved by God, even when I’ve made mistakes.
  • There’s nothing I can do to cause God to love me any more than He already loves me and nothing I can do to cause Him to love me any less. I can never be “good enough” to receive His love, it’s a free gift. (Rom.3:27, 28, Eph.2:8, 9, 1 Jn.4:10)
  • Only love matures. Fear of judgment and condemnation never produce true maturity. It is God who will finish the work He began in me. I can’t work hard enough to produce it. I can only cooperate with it. (Phil.1:6, Rm.2:4)
  • Once I’ve embraced God’s love for me anew I deal with anything in my heart.
    • If I’ve sinned I repent.
    • If I’ve wronged someone I ask forgiveness.
    • If I’m emotionally triggered and can’t get past it I find someone to do prayer ministry with me.

2—Giving God’s Love Away

The second thing I do is consider how I might give God’s love away to others. I might ask God in prayer to show me some ways. I sometimes consider different relationships in my life and consider how I might show God’s love to them today.

If want to read my life story and steps to a complete road map to maturity get my book, The Sonship Empowered Life.

As you seek to live in God’s love daily you will be amazed at how your relationship with Him begins to rapidly grow!

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God’s Love Can Answer Every Problem

May 22, 2016 by Robert Hartzell

God's Love Can Answer Every ProblemLove is the answer to every problem you have. Whether it’s with your spouse, children, or a co-worker. Whether you feel stuck in life or stuck in habits you can’t seem to break. Whether you’re dealing with loss, health issues, or financial problems. Love is the answer.

A deficit of love is always the root cause.

Security Comes With Love

Think of love in terms of disciplining an 11-year-old child. Say he lied about passing a test at school.

You could spank him, restrict him, take away privileges, but that deals with behavior only.

  • What made him feel he couldn’t simply talk to you if there was a problem?
  • What communicated to him you wouldn’t be safe and loving?

But you may contest, “He didn’t come and talk because he wanted to cop out of the test.” Okay then…

  • What made him feel overwhelmed by the test, that he needed to cop out?
  • Why didn’t he know he would be lovingly supported even when he felt stuck?

Knowing we are loved no matter what is the answer.

Consider This Example

In ministering Prayer Ministry to people for many years I’ve worked with them through the worst abuses you could possibly imagine. I’ve even had various people tell me they prayed while actually being abused, but it didn’t stop. Personally I never try to answer things like this. We just bring it to God in prayer.

But here’s the amazing part. The minute a person reaches the place of knowing the abuse was not because something was wrong with them and that God did not abandon them, in that moment all the pain goes away. I’ve seen it 1000s of times. It always comes down to knowing we are loved. 

Love Casts Out Fear 

1 John 4:18 reads in the Greek, “mature” love in our hearts casts out fear. Any time I have a fear in any area of my life, God’s love has not yet fully matured in that area of my heart. If I fear a financial crisis I don’t yet know at a heart level my Father’s love that supplies all my needs, takes care of the flowers and birds, and I’m way more important to Him than those.

However, there’s more. His love isn’t just the answer to fear. It’s the answer to anger, loneliness, insecurities, feelings of powerlessness…

Everything.

Every problem you have can be answered through God’s love.

God’s goodness leads us to repentance. The minute we can see God’s true heart of love and goodness in the midst of any challenge we have we are on the way to freedom!

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Love Feasts

May 10, 2016 by Robert Hartzell

A foundational experience of being loved by God and a freedom to love others is the foundation of the Christian life and the key to living in emotional health, rest and peace, and a continuing sense of God’s presence in your heart.

Let’s consider what this looks like.

Love from God’s Perspective

I wrote previously of A Father’s Love Vision sharing that God set up Creation primarily to experience and respond to His love. Judgment, sin, righteousness, intercession, etc. are all important, but are all secondary.

Love from the Believer’s Perspectivelove feasts

In many cases a person becomes receptive to salvation during a time of difficulty in their lives.

Imagine if when the person came to salvation and joined a church their very first experience was that of being loved rather than obligation and duty.

Imagine their salvation call was from the pain of living without love and how that hurts ourselves, others, and the heart of God rather than their obligation to fulfill justice and escape the fires of hell.

Then imagine their first impressions were not making sure they fulfill their duty to pray, read the Word, attend church, tithe, and evangelize; but rather, it was an experience of being loved. At every service other believers hugged them, said kind words, listened to their heart, included them, invited them. An atmosphere existing with no competition or cliques but just plain and simple love.

I believe if this type of atmosphere was in our churches we could bypass a lot of counseling and years of struggle.

I believe this experience of love is what the Gospel is all about. It’s what people all over the world are starving for. 1 John 4:7, 8 — To know God is to love. He who doesn’t love does not yet know Him.

Maturing New Believers

As the new believer is founded on an experience of being loved, the next step is learning to stay in God’s love regardless of what life throws at him. And he doesn’t do this alone but with the support of a body of loving believers.

  • Jude 1:21 …and to keep ourselves in the love of God.
  • Jn.15:17 these things I commanded you that you may love one another.
  • Jn.15:9… remain in My love.

Love Feastslove feasts

In Jude 1:12 the Bible talks about believers holding Love Feasts. The word love here is actually “agape.” Agape feasts! A time to get together over a meal. A time to share God’s good love and take communion together.

A feast of Agape love. We take communion and recount God’s amazing love. We share a meal and share of God’s expressions of love in our lives. Finally, we make it a point to show each other how much we care, and how valuable each person is in our sight and Gods.

I believe this would be a nice way to draw people more deeply into an experience of God’s love.

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Motivating With A Father’s Heart

May 6, 2016 by Robert Hartzell

Fathering Leaders Nurture Heartsmotivating with a father's heart

Motivating with a father’s heart involves nurturing. It’s in the nature of a father to nurture. Whether a leader is a parent, business owner, missionary, or pastor — they have the responsibility of nurturing the hearts of the people in their care in order to see them blossom forth. If you think of someone’s heart as a living organism, nourishment is needed. Nutrients, water, and sunlight are all vital lest it shrivel up. Also crucially needed for survival is protection from disease and harmful influences.

But understand there’s a learning curve for leaders who seek to nurture. When you’re motivating with a father’s heart you seek to develop and grow your people. But knowing how to show affection and encouragement in an authentic and genuine way is something that sometimes has to be learned. And there are times a leader must use correction and discipline to keep his people productive.

Herein lies the dilemma:

How do you minister correction and discipline without compromising a person’s sense of being loved and valued?

Motivation and Discipline

Let’s observe the father-child relationship for a moment for an example to follow. Children growing up need guidance from their parents to learn to love God, do well in school, respect authority, and contribute to community.

Along this same line, church members need guidance from their leaders to learn to serve and give out to their local congregation as well as to the Body of Christ as a whole. And employees need leadership who will pull out their gifts and talents as well as teach them skills. This is where a father’s heart will see potential in their people. They see the value the person has to offer, yet realize it may need some “pruning” to help it grow.

So how do you motivate and discipline without shutting down the heart of the other person?

3 Keys for Love-Based Discipline

  1. Love always has to be first. Friends first — ministry/business second. A person has to know they’re loved and accepted before they will receive correction from you. Josh McDowell says, “Rules without relationship breed rebellion.” When someone knows you really love them and care for them, it’s not difficult to motivate them. Relationship comes first, not rules.
  2. Remember discipline and correction should focus on the person’s behavior and not on their identity. Judgment is not a component of discipline. Negative words usually produce negative behavior. Positive words usually produce positive behavior.
  3. Maintain an environment of access and dialogue with them. When your people feel free to come to you and openly discuss their challenges, growth will occur. A fathering leader is looking to build productive people.

Fathering Leaders that walk in these skills of motivation and discipline are well advanced in their leadership development. They display a graciousness towards others on their journey of maturation. These leaders will change lives, raise children and spiritual sons and daughters that are emotionally healthy and successful both inside and outside of the church. And all of us as Christians — whether official leaders or not — can use these keys to express the heart of the Father to everyone we meet.

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Maturing into Sonship

April 29, 2016 by Robert Hartzell

Adam and Eve wanted to have the knowledge to decide for themselves what they wanted andmaturing into sonship what they deemed appropriate for their lives, but it led them into hiding because they became afraid. (Gen.3:10)

When we are stuck in the independence of living as a spiritual orphan we have to:

  • Provide for ourselves.
  • Promote ourselves.
  • Protect ourselves.

But what happens if we don’t measure up? What happens if we can’t provide, promote and protect ourselves sufficiently? Fear and hiding will become a part of our daily lives.

Sons walk in the inheritance of their Father’s favor, rest, and provision.

How do you journey into sonship?

In today’s post I will share the steps I took as well as give you a chart to begin to identify your own growth steps.

Meeting the Master

In ’86 I was delivering pizzas for Dominos, on drugs, and directionless. I felt the the darkness and despair of the pit I lived in. One day I came to believe God offered freedom. So I turned to God and He did give me freedom. I then embraced a life of working hard for the Master lest I displease Him and be cut off. You see, at that time I didn’t even know it was in me to naturally view God that way — as a master.

Gal.4:1-2 — Now I say that the heir, as long as he is a child, does not differ at all from a slave, though he is master of all, but is under guardians and stewards until the time appointed by the father.

”A good master can draw the prodigal home, but only a good father can empower a son.” — Jason Clark

When I came into the Kingdom, I didn’t realize I wasn’t a son. In fact, I didn’t even know what sonship was. I had no paradigm for it.

Meeting the Father

We were never meant to be slaves, even if for a good Master.

“If our revelation of God as a good Master doesn’t mature into a revelation of God as a good Father, we will find ourselves enslaved either to the world or religion.” (Jason Clark) And this is exactly what occurred in my life.

I lived as an orphan from ’86 until ’99 when the Father’s love finally came into my life. This was huge. This now gave me a foundation of security in love. I no longer lived daily in condemnation and fear. However, I was still in the process of maturing from Master to Father.

I knew the revelation of Father’s love but now I needed to hold my heart open and work out my “spiritual orphan issues” if I wanted to experience maturing into sonship.

Steps I Took

In those early days of the Father’s love I took many steps.

  • I repented to my parents.
  • I wrote letters to them honoring them as my mother and father.
  • I repented to pastors and employers for ways I acted as a spiritual orphan.

I took the steps to resolve the ways my heart had resisted being a son.

Even today I’m still in process. I walk in sonship much of the time but there are days I still get triggered and revert. But having a foundation of being irrevocably loved by my Father, I can quickly get prayer ministry and move back into sonship.

Gal.4:4-7 — God sent forth His Son, to redeem those who were under the law, that we might receive the adoption as sons. And because you are sons, God has sent forth the Spirit of His Son into your hearts, crying out, “Abba, Father!” Therefore you are no longer a slave but a son, and if a son, then an heir of God through Christ.

All of us can grow from being under “tutors and governors” into a full heart that cries, “Abba!” If you will take the steps of humility to repent for orphan attitudes and get prayer ministry for the orphan issues you find arising in your heart, there’s a great freedom just waiting for you.

 

Below is a helpful chart from for identifying our orphan issues from Shiloh Place

ORPHAN HEART HEART OF SONSHIP
See God as Master IMAGE OF GOD See God as a loving Father
Independent / Self-reliant DEPENDENCY Interdependent / Acknowledges Need
Live by the Love of Law THEOLOGY Live by the Law of Love
Insecure / Lack peace SECURITY Rest and Peace
Strive for the praise, approval, and acceptance of  man NEED FOR APPROVAL Totally accepted in God’s love and justified by grace
A need for personal achievement as you seek to impress God and others, or no motivation to serve at all MOTIVE FOR SERVICE Service that is motivated by a deep gratitude for being unconditionally loved and accepted by God
Duty and earning God’s favor or no motivation at all MOTIVE BEHIND CHRISTIAN DISCIPLINES Pleasure and delight
“Must” be holy to have God’s favor, thus increasing a sense of shame and guilt MOTIVE FOR PURITY “Want to” be holy; do not want anything to hinder intimate relationship with God
Self-rejection from comparing yourself to others SELF-IMAGE Positive and affirmed because you know you have such value to God
Seek comfort in counterfeit affections:  addictions, compulsions, escapism, busyness, hyper-religious activity SOURCE OF COMFORT Seek times of quietness and solitude to rest in the Father’s presence and love
Competition, rivalry, and jealousy toward others’ success and position PEER RELATIONSHIPS Humility and unity as you value others and are able to rejoice in their blessings and success
Accusation and exposure in order to make yourself look good by making others look bad HANDLING THE FAULTS OF OTHERS Love covers as you seek to restore others in a spirit of love and gentleness
See authority as a source of pain; distrustful toward them and lack a heart attitude of submission VIEW OF AUTHORITY Respectful, honoring; you see them as ministers of God for good in your life
Difficulty receiving admonition; you must be right so you easily get your feelings hurt and close your spirit to discipline VIEW OF ADMONITION See the receiving of admonition as a blessing and need in your life so that your faults and weaknesses are exposed and put to death
Guarded and conditional; based upon others’ performance as you seek to get your own needs met EXPRESSION OF LOVE Open, patient, and affectionate as you lay your life and agendas down in order to meet the needs of others
Conditional & Distant SENSE OF GOD’S PRESENCE Close & Intimate
Bondage CONDITION Liberty
Feel like a Servant/Slave POSITION Feel like a Son/Daughter
Spiritual ambition; the desire for spiritual achievement and distinction and the willingness to strive for it; a desire to be seen and counted among the mature. VISION To daily experience the Father’s unconditional love and acceptance and then be sent as a representative of His love to family and others.
Fight for what you can get! FUTURE Sonship releases your inheritance!

 

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